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It’s a Small World After All

Yesterday’s trip south to take the copper portraits to my cousin turned into quite an adventure, at least for an elderly couple. We set off in gorgeous weather but nasty traffic and ended up at Linda’s spacious home–where she had collected all her/our family photos to show me. There were so many Grieves and an abundance of BIG HAIR. We’re known for that, especially our famous (infamous?) relative. I’m still kicking myself that Linda and I didn’t take a picture together! We were too busy chatting, laughing and sharing stories. Oh, how I wished my dad could have been with us. However, I felt bad for John who had driven me to Chehalis, just so we could eventually have dinner at the nearby McMenamin’s Olympic Club Hotel. Their mac and cheese is out of this world. Then Linda started talking about growing up in White Center, and to make a long story short, John lived in the same neighborhood! They knew many of the same people. John babysat for a family Linda was friends with, only one of the connections they discovered. They even had swimming lessons at the same lake. For the next hour or so, John and Linda reminisced while I sat quietly with my mouth hanging open. What were the odds? When we left to mosey around the downtown of Centralia, WA (fun!), and have a Happy Hour meal, the Caesar salad, red ale and mac and cheese at McMenamins completely lived up to our high expectations!

Today I went to a local park with Younger Daughter and boys. Unfortunately, there was also a church service going on near to the play area; their building was unavailable for some reason. And their young preacher(?) was LOUD and all about mean and vindictive Jesus. He yelled that if your eyes sinned, you had to pluck them out and cast them away. He added that if your hand offended God, you had to cut it off and throw it away. He sounded absolutely serious–a literal belief in the Bible. I. WAS. APPALLED. Without going into any details, a student at my university did those exact things in the bathroom of my dorm to remove “evil.” I didn’t witness the carnage but hearing about it was enough. When I saw YD talking and laughing with one of the members of the church, I was shocked; it turned out to be Ian’s physical therapist. Small world again! Ironically, the name of this place was “Hope City.” More like hopeless?

I’ve also spent time this week with Sharky and Obro who are very into puzzles. Before they put them away, they wanted a picture of their accomplishment. It’s embarrassing to admit that Sharky is way better than I am at puzzles; he’s much more spatial. But just give me some verbs to conjugate or literature to analyze, eh? 🙂

The sunny and warm spring weather is lovely for outdoor work, but the tulips are on their way out. 🙁

This bunch of what I call sunrise blooms is hanging on though.

When one type of flower dies down, others take its place. My lilies (orange to the right and Stargazer to the left) are getting huge! However, the Old Copper rhododendron that my late husband bought me long ago is looking on the verge of death. I would be crushed to lose it, but I’m no rhody whisperer. Perhaps the plant has put in its time and will force me to put a different tree in its place. That’s not necessarily a bad thing.

As well as some yard work, I also got out on a walk, which was delightful, although I was a little overdressed. I like pockets to put my phone in! Today, while I was hanging out with Anders, he told me, “Today is Saturday. Tomorrow is Sunday. Today is tomorrow’s yesterday.” He’s two and a a half.

My reaction:

Pretty much speechless.

Comments

34 responses to “It’s a Small World After All”

  1. Marie Avatar
    Marie

    Anders is a smart little guy! Time concepts for that age aren’t usually this complex!
    I love the Olympic Club! We had a few Thanksgiving dinners there and took the boys to the movies there.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I think he had heard other people say it and was just parroting it. But put together with the other comments about the days, it was pretty amazing. 😳Remember how worried I was about him talking? I love the Olympic Club too. It’s so low key!!

  2. Jay Avatar
    Jay

    Oh my! The hair on the bust of your ancestor is so pronounced, and from your description, not really a caricature.
    That preacher sounds like the “Megaphone Jesus” men who assail folks going to sporting events with mega-loud fire and brimstone. I’m curious how they’ll be managed for the World Cup.
    Anders concepts of days sounds pretty advanced. Even if some is repetition I bet there’s a kernel of understanding in there.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Chris had quite the coiffure! Having grown up Episcopalian, I’m not used to the kind of rhetoric that I heard, and I was shocked by it. Are we back in the middle ages?

  3. Linda Avatar

    Screaming preachers or teachers are annoying. They don’t seem to realize that people will be turned off because nobody like to be shouted at.
    Your photos are beautiful, Margaret.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Thanks, Linda! There were many little kids on the playground and I don’t think they needed to be hearing that. I sure didn’t!

  4. Maureen Avatar
    Maureen

    Great time of year for adventures and flowers and grandsons. It’s hard to imagine all the small world moments one has considering the large population!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I couldn’t believe it when Linda and John started figuring out all the experiences and people they had in common. It was SO WEIRD.

  5. AC Avatar

    This a bright and pretty cheery update.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It was an excellent day! Today John and I take off camping. Hopefully the weather will be decent where we go. If not, we’ll be playing a lot of Quiddler in the camper.

  6. Doug M Avatar
    Doug M

    That is amazing about your cousin and John (wish we could’ve seen some big hair and macaroni and cheese ha) but the young preacher… ugh. Finally, Baby Ian I missed him! And out of the mouths of babes.. my gosh, Anders. Love your flowers too Margaret. 🙂👍

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I didn’t take any photos at all, which isn’t like me. The Olympic Club has such a lovely ambiance; I like it better than the fancy McMenamin’s Elks Temple near me. That preacher really disturbed me in his rhetoric. He said some things about marriage and divorce that I disagreed with too! I’m sure Anders was repeating something he’d heard, but it was still impressive. He’s talking so well now!

  7. Ed Avatar

    Perhaps I’m not normal or just really well traveled and read but I rarely go someplace and talk to someone where I don’t find something we have in common to talk about. It comes in handy in passing the time and keeping a conversation going.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I was shocked because Linda lives an hour away in a city John and I are both unfamiliar with. It was the oddest thing that Linda and John had grown up in the same neighborhood–cool though too.

  8. Betty Renfroe Avatar
    Betty Renfroe

    Puzzles build math skills and help with problem solving. We were so poor growing up, we had no puzzles. So how did we get so good at math. Maybe playing dominoes with dad. Who knows.

    I love “today is tomorrow’s yesterday”. And the verse in Matthew is a hyperbole. Like when we say I’m starving and we’re just hungry. I pray for understanding. I pray for you.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Math is imbedded in many disciplines, like music for example. I’ve written about similar ideas to “today is tomorrow’s yesterday.” We need to try to make good decisions in the present to look back on from the future, with no (or few) regrets. This preacher didn’t sound like he was using hyperbole and even acted out the phrases (ugh); the focus of his speech was anger and judgement. I didn’t like his tone at all!

  9. Steve Avatar

    “Today is tomorrow’s yesterday” — that’s very poetic!

    I was intrigued by the Wikipedia page on Hugh McDiarmid. I saw the group photo far down the page and thought, “Hey, that’s Malcolm X!” And it was. Hugh kept illustrious company. (And was illustrious himself, big hair and all.)

    I don’t understand that hellfire-and-brimstone theology. That’s just not how I was raised.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I’m sure he’s heard it somewhere; it feeds into my philosophy about trying to make good decisions in the present so that I won’t have regrets, looking back from the future. When I mentioned to my Scottish friend Pam that I was related to Chris, she exclaimed, “He’s famous here!” I didn’t realize that because my family didn’t talk about him; he was the definite black sheep! I don’t understand that theology either or those who embrace it. Do they consider themselves deserving of constant judgement, criticism and anger?

  10. kayak woman Avatar

    I dunno, after hearing little kids (my own and other people’s) express complicated thoughts like Anders did, I think they aren’t always just repeating things. Those little brains are working! 🙂

    I cannot stand the “holy rollers” (my current go-to phrase for the kind of “Christian” you encountered). The outstanding lesson I got from my long abandoned childhood religion (mainstream Methodist) was the golden rule — which a quick bit of googling reminds me way preceded any Christian religion.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I doubt he understood what he was saying but it still surprised me to hear him verbalize it. At one time I was very concerned about his verbal abilities, but not so much now! This group is evidently affiliated with the Seventh-Day Adventists, hence their Saturday service. I didn’t realize that they were holy rollers. 😳

      1. kayak woman Avatar

        They’re probably not “holy rollers”, that’s just a word I use to refer to Christian religions I don’t agree with 🙂 When my daughter and her partner moved to their current rental house, there was a Christian church of some sort across the street. They were a bit put off until they saw a “black lives matter” sign in the yard 🙂 I have known a few Seventh-Day Adventists over the years and at least individually they were very personable and likable.

    2. Margaret Avatar

      Younger daughter said the same thing about them being personable. The people we ran into were very friendly. I was surprised that Centralia, which I assumed would be very conservative, had a bunch of rainbow signs and “everyone welcome” on most of the downtown shops.

  11. JT Twissel Avatar

    Ah, a budding philosopher! My husband’s daughter has a phrase when she was a toddler “I’m so sorry you” which she said when people seemed sad.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      That’s very sweet! I love the way that little kids express themselves. It’s so unique and heartfelt.

  12. Susan Avatar
    Susan

    Visiting with your cousin sounds very enjoyable. The connections between John and your cousin must have come as a surprise.
    The theater of aggressive church preaching is disturbing to me. How do people sit through such preaching?
    Anders seems gifted. To put together complex thinking as he has is impressive. Hopefully the school system has gifted programs for kids like Anders.
    Your tulips are still beautiful even as they are winding down.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I was totally shocked by how connected John and my cousin were. Very unexpected! That style of religion baffles and frightens me. Anders seems smart but ADHD which may (will?) cause him problems in school. We’ll see, I guess. We have to take it one day at a time.

  13. J Avatar

    I’m choosing to believe that the reason the church building was unavailable was that they received a bomb threat, because he’s such a crappy preacher! I mean, WOW. And how horrible to hear about the person doing that to himself at your University! UGH.

    Your garden is beautiful, and I’m glad that John had so many things in common with your cousin, so he was involved in the conversation. Also mac and cheese and Caesar salad? Sounds perfect to me.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It’s hard to believe how many fundamentalist churches there are in my town now. The people are nice but the theology is (to me) crazy! I love that Mac and cheese. The meal was great! My garden will soon be ugly with dying tulip foliage. But it was worth it. Next I’ll be on to annuals!

  14. Pixie Avatar

    Jack still has a hard time with the concept of today, yesterday, and tomorrow. Good on Anders.
    I’m not a fan of that kind of religion, regardless of the religion. It’s utter bullshit.

    The flowers are lovely, as is Ian:)

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It really does feel like a cult. I don’t think Anders really understands time either; he just repeats what he hears.

  15. sundancecompany Avatar

    I am absolutely speechless over Anders’ quote. ‘Today is tomorrow’s yesterday’ is some high-level existentialism for a two-and-a-half-year-old! He’s a little philosopher in the making. Also, don’t feel bad about Sharky beating you at puzzles—spatial awareness is over-rated when you can conjugate a verb like a pro!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I’m sure he heard someone say it, but I loved the meaning behind it. I have 0 spatial ability! 😩

  16. krueth Avatar
    krueth

    Your sweet little Anders saying that, even if he heard it, to remember it at his age is amazing.
    Even if your tulips are on their way out, they are still so pretty. I only have the orange tiger lilies in my rock garden.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I love lilies too! The warm sunny weather isn’t great for the tulips and many of them are fading. But they were beautiful while they lasted! A year or so ago, I was so worried about Anders’ talking (or lack thereof); you were one of the people who reassured me. Thank you for that, Wendy!

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