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With a heat pump, I have no right to complain about weather over 90 degrees, right? But I do hate being cooped up inside, except for watering my flowers and deliberately spraying myself with water while doing so. Whatever works! 🥵

One of the highlights of yesterday was making homemade bubble solution. My littles love the stuff! Then I realized that I had no funnel. Oops!

Fortunately, I located a wider mouthed container, so I resolved that issue.

And it does work, although not as prolifically as the store-bought product. I can live with that and so can my pocketbook.

On the first day of Sharky’s summer break, Older Daughter taught him how to eat lunch off a tray in their much cooler basement. I hope that was our hottest day for a while!

Younger Daughter is settling into her new place–with the usual bumps in the road. Where are Anders’ Duplos? (big Lego bricks) How does she keep her bigger house cool with only one portable A/C unit? And how will she manage without laundry facilities for the week? Costco did deliver her washer and dryer yesterday, but also discovered a leak, so they couldn’t hook them up. That will mean a plumber to fix the problem and then rescheduling the hook-up. House ownership can be a real PITA! And expensive, as her wise mother warned her…

As for Anders and Ian, I think they’re confused, and possibly unsettled– especially Anders who said, when he couldn’t see my daughter, “She went to Mama’s house.” In his mind, the rental is still home; I’m sure he’ll adjust quickly though. Today, YD had to pick him up from daycare for misbehavior. 🙁 He wasn’t listening and ended up pulling the fire alarm, necessitating an evacuation of the daycare. YD was embarrassed and worried, talking about taking him to a behavioral therapist. He’ll be three in July; in my opinion, a therapist would tell her that this is normal behavior for that age and stage. But we also don’t want to ignore or brush off worrisome behaviors and acting out. I told her (not harshly, just realistically) to get used to the parental concerns and constant second guessing; I’m still experiencing them with “children” of nearly 40 and 36 years old. And why does a daycare have a fire alarm within reach of a toddler?

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While looking for a different photo, I stumbled upon this one of YD; doesn’t Ian resemble her in the prior picture? Since she looks like me, does that mean Ian does as well? Poor kid.

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Photo credit: Nancy Nelson

My former colleague Nancy has such a stunning view of Mount Rainier (Tahoma) from her house; this is exactly what I see on my way home from John’s. When she’s out, which she has been a lot lately!

While helping weed whack at YD’s house, I spotted some hydrangeas in her back yard; they reminded me of my parents’ place and their beautiful flowers. I miss my childhood home and my parents so much.

This one is a mountain hydrangea according to my research. Is it also called a lacecap?

This afternoon I managed my first walk for several days due to moving, babysitting, helping, heat and ennui. This is when I first started, before I got red-faced and sweaty. My week has and will include several lunches out, a T-ball game (Sharky), babysitting Ian for Anders’ gymnastics, an appointment to look at the moss on my roof ($$$) and another bid to stain and repair my 30-year-old deck. (more $$$) Life really is a mix of the fine and not-so-fine, isn’t it?

For some giggles, go here. Star Trek lovers only: My older daughter and late husband preferred the original series whereas I’m a much bigger fan of the Next Generation. My husband disliked (really hated) Counselor Troi, especially when she wore the revealing outfits in the early seasons. “That’s not a uniform! What does she do anyway? She serves no useful purpose!” He couldn’t stand Will Riker (too arrogant) and neither one of us liked Troi’s mother or Q. As for the original series, Kirk was a womanizer, the sets were cheesy, like the Styrofoam rocks and some of the episodes were godawful–Space Hippies anyone?

And although Sharky isn’t fazed, when I first watched that particular scene as a child, I was terrified. Of course, I continue to be scared of “The Wizard of Oz” and avoid watching it at all costs. I guess I’m just a wimp. 🙂

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32 responses to “Not So Fine”

  1. Maureen Avatar
    Maureen

    Poor Anders is going through a lot of changes right now. That can be so unsettling for a toddler. Those are beautiful hydrangeas – mine are much pinker due to more acidic soil I guess. I hope your heat wave passes quickly so you can all enjoy the outdoors more.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      He’s at that Terrible Twos/Threes that parents talk about with horror decades later but exacerbated by his separate houses parental situation and this new place. (I think) Younger Daughter is even more of a worrier than I am, so she’s afraid he’s going to be the “bad” kid in daycare and school. I would bet that he’s ADHD and possibly a bit on the spectrum. He’s extremely smart and very sweet too. Strong-willed like most kids that age. I love the different hydrangea colors! My parents’ were purple and blue. The high heat has passed and it’s now low 80s and 70s. I don’t think we’re done with the high temperatures though and it’s so dry that wildfires will be an issue.

  2. Jay Avatar
    Jay

    A fire alarm where he could reach!? And did they say “Don’t pull that” which would be heard as “…. Pull That.”
    I was scared of the which, the trees, and the monkeys as a kid, but love Wizard of Oz now. I didn’t see it in color until I was in college. I knew it went to color, but I never got the horse of a different color bit until I saw it in color. My reaction to the horse changing color really amused the much younger kids I was watching it with at a friend’s house.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I was shocked that the fire alarm would be within reach of kids too. I haven’t seen WofO enough times to know about the horse. What happened to it?

      1. Jay Avatar
        Jay

        They’re riding in a carriage in Oz pulled by a horse. Dorothy says something like, “I’ve never seen a horse like that before!” To which the driver repies, “He’s the horse of a different color you’ve heard about.” Every time the horse is in frame it’s a different color. (And obviously a different horse)

      2. Margaret Avatar

        I don’t remember that part of the film at all–but then I’ve avoided watching it for the past 60+ years.

  3. AC Avatar

    I think there are newer versions of Star Trek, but I completely lost touch. I guess the original is my strangest association, but I tink I watched the next two series. Counselor Tori was kinda hot in my male opinion. What else matters. 😇🤪

    1. Margaret Avatar

      There were a number of series, only a few of which I watched. TNG was definitely my favorite, with the original series second. I loved Spock and Scotty.

  4. Doug M Avatar
    Doug M

    Loved the brief video Margaret, but was embarrassed for original Star Trek… William Shatner still gave it his all, though! Your husband had a good point about Troi, I loved the TNG episode where Picards replacement looks at her and says he prefers a more traditional appearance on the bridge. Ouch! I was sorry to read about Anders, that little guy is definitely his own man. I just love that photo of baby Ian!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Sharky calling the Gorn “silly” was shocking! He was scary!! “I will be merciful,” with hissing. I’d forgotten that Troi episode; perhaps that’s why she went to a traditional uniform. I hope things calm down with Anders but 3 is a tough age for any child. And he has a lot more to deal with than many.

  5. Betty Renfroe Avatar
    Betty Renfroe

    I have a heat pump and mostly love it. It’s not the best during winter when the highs stay at 0. It’s the most economical choice for me.

    Why expect a child to have steady behavior when his world is topsey turvey. Day cares are scary but in home care is worse. There isn’t enough eyes to see what’s going on there.

    The Lace Cap is beautiful. I hope YD’s home experience will be a good one for her. 🤞

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I’ve read that heat pumps are very economical and environmentally friendly but work best in moderate climate conditions. When the outside temperature is below freezing, my furnace kicks on as back up so as not to stress the heat pump. (an expensive piece of equipment!) Younger daughter is worried about Anders’ behavior and she knows him best, so I don’t dismiss her concerns. I try to be reassuring about the reality of 3-year-olds though.

  6. Susan Avatar
    Susan

    A new home is certainly a big change, and change can be hard for most children. I suspect things will calm down in a week or two.
    It seems, Anders has lots of curiosity and his mind is thinking all the time. All good traits.
    I’d question why the fire alarm is within reach of children? Seems odd, especially for a daycare.
    I watched original Star Trek on TV and loved it. That said, I have not continued to be a fan. The newer series is not the same.
    The hydrangeas on YD’s property are beautiful.
    It sounds like YD will need a good handyman to help with home maintenance.
    For cleaning outside surfaces (deck, roof, patio, walkway), I like “Wet and Forget.” Attach the bottle to the hose and spray to clean debris. It works really well.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I love TNG but not some of the other newer series. I never got into DS9 at all–too dark and too many Ferengi. Anders isn’t known for his listening skills; is that just being nearly 3 or is there something else going on? It’s hard to say at this point. My deck will require some repair, stripping/pressure washing(?) and staining. I probably should invest in a completely new deck since this one is so old.

  7. Luftmentsch Avatar

    I like TOS and TNG! I didn’t understand what Troi was there for, though, particularly on the bridge. She always said that aliens were holding something back or feeling aggressive, which was usually obvious to everyone even without her vaunted “empathy”!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      That’s exactly what my husband said about Troi!! I also like both series for different reasons. TNG had some extremely thoughtful and thought-provoking episodes and I much preferred Picard as captain. TOS had more humor.

  8. Michael Avatar

    I have never watch a single Star Trek episode or movie. I know I am weird. And as a child, “The Wizard of Oz” scared the hell out of me, especially the scene with the monkeys flying. When I saw the photo of your younger daughter, I thought it was Ian! You have been one busy person!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I don’t think you’re alone in that, Michael. I grew up on Star Trek, much more so than Star Wars. I remember watching it at my paternal grandparents’ house and being fascinated by outer space. Ian has his own smile but looks a lot like YD otherwise.

  9. Linda Avatar

    Hi Margaret, I did love the original Star Trek series with William Shatner. I never got into any others.
    William Shatner was born here in Montreal.
    Your photos are always lovely and I enjoy seeing them.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I knew Shatner was Canadian but not that he was born in Montreal; that’s cool! Walter Koenig (Chekhov) and he are the only ones left alive from the main cast of TOS.

  10. Midwest Mark Avatar

    Man, your husband and I couldn’t be more different. Pretty sure I first started watching Star Trek TNG because of Counselor Troi’s revealing outfits! 🙂

    1. Margaret Avatar

      He had been in the military and since the crew were supposed to be quasi-military, he objected to the “uniform” on those grounds. Not necessarily because of the revealing top. 🙂

      1. Midwest Mark Avatar

        This is where “suspension of disbelief” comes in!

    2. Margaret Avatar

      Yes, he was the one who loved the original series with the cheesy sets!

  11. Linda Avatar

    Hi Margaret,

    Montreal is a very large city and there are many boroughs in it. William Shatner was born in Hampstead, a wealthy borough in Montreal.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I would’ve liked to have gone there when I visited Montreal. Home of Captain Kirk!

  12. Pipe Tobacco Avatar
    Pipe Tobacco

    I suspect Anders is feeling a lot of chaos with moving. It may take a week or two before he feels back into a routine. If you can, lots of visits likely will help.

    I love the use of a cookie sheet as a lunch tray/table! Sharky seems to enjoy it too! Basements are much cooler for certain! I was under the impression that basements were rather rare in the Pacific region due to the soil makeup. Is that correct or incorrect?

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I hope Anders starts listening better and not getting into mischief–but he is 3ish and that’s typical from what I remember. His mother was a perfect child at school with horrible restraint collapse when she got home. Jekyll and Hyde! Basements aren’t rare in older houses and that family has a Craftsman style house, built over 100 years ago. My younger daughter’s new place is a split level (hate them myself) with steps up to the living room, most bedrooms and the kitchen and steps down to a sort of basement with a family room, laundry and another bathroom and bedroom. Many houses, like mine, are two story with a crawl space; my rental is a rambler (one story) My parents’ house, my family home, had a daylight basement which stayed very cool. So, we have a variety of house styles! Do most of your homes there have basements?

  13. Pipe Tobacco Avatar
    Pipe Tobacco

    Also…. I tend to much prefer ST:Original to any of the others. To my manner of thinking the 60s ethos lead to better, more creative stories (ignoring the silly proclivities of Kirk of course). To me, the original seemed far more imagination focused, whereas Next Generation and others seemed to me more literal and a bit more “formulaic”. And, I actually enjoy the original’s props, even if they can lean towards “cheesy”.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It took my husband and me a year or so to get used to TNG but as the series went on, I found their stories much more interesting and thought-provoking than the original. And I much preferred Picard as the captain!!

  14. Steve Avatar

    I had the same thought you did about the fire alarm. Why on earth would it be within the reach of a two-year-old? (Almost three!) Surely no one expects the kids to notify someone of a fire? Older kids maybe, but not toddlers.

    I am a fan of the original series; Dave prefers “Next Generation.” I remember the Gorn very well! Not sure I ever thought he was scary but I hated seeing Kirk, our hero, get so roughed up.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I can’t imagine a fire code requiring it to be at a lower level for kids, but what do I know? YD doesn’t understand that telling a 3-year-old not to do something (over and over) will mean that he won’t. Even older children aren’t always compliant. I like both series but prefer TNG. I love Picard!

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