Yesterday I was congratulating myself on having the whole day to get my hair done and go for a walk since I’d already bought the Book Club treat and cleaned my house the day before. Then an early morning text came through–Obro hadn’t slept most of the night due to a suspected ear infection and he wanted Mémé. Or was it the working parents who needed me there? It didn’t really matter and soon I was on my way to Older Daughter’s house. I could have said no, but instead I set my boundary for a departure at 2 p.m. to prepare for Book Club. During our time together, Obro (double ear infection) and I read about 100 books, put together puzzles, snuggled and listened to a couple Circle Rounds and drew pictures. And although my hair still looks AWFUL, the time with my little guy was precious.
I’m the one in yellow (my coiffure is quite accurate) and John is the green guy. His response: “I’m thin–I like that!”
Obro is such a sweetie with a chirpy voice and a talkative personality.
For my Ram Ladies luncheon this week, I wore my Trinity College sweatshirt as my friend and I had vowed to do. The day was a little warm for it since fall weather hasn’t completely hit here. (high 60s and low 70s with minimal rain) Would my friend and Ireland roomie remember?
She did! We had a lovely get together with our group, ordering our usual lunches. For me, a lunch sized Cobb salad and an Arnold Palmer. 🙂
Most days I try to help out at Younger Daughter’s in the evening. Her life and decisions are a worry to me, plus I want to spend time with my littlest grandsons. Right now, YD is concerned that Ian doesn’t eat much solid food or at all independently. At the moment, he plays with any small items she puts on his tray or throws them on the floor. I try to be reassuring but I do take on these worries; people tell me I shouldn’t yet have never explained to me how to brush off legitimate misgivings. John, who appears to never worry, told me the other day, “I worry a lot too.” I was shocked! A bit later, I asked him about what and if I could help. His concerns are so much different from mine: his health (shoulder, hip, feet, hands), his loss of strength, his house full of crap that his kids will have to deal with when he dies, the aging process in general. In my case, it’s all about YD’s dysfunction and how that affects (and will affect) her children and her, it’s about how AI will impact my daughters’ and grandsons’ lives and employment, it’s about how unkind and frightening the world is right now. So, I keep busy with outings, coffee dates, books and a few random TV shows. I cuddle my cat, go for walks and look for positives. Some days they are few and far between. Today it will be the FAIR and having a scone from under the grandstand and hopefully not running into too many people I know. 🙂
Happiness isn’t permanent, but neither is sadness, right?
Reading: “The Things We Never Say” by Elizabeth Strout. What secrets do we keep and are they harmful? Where is the line between privacy and lack of openness?
Watching: I have two more episodes of “The Marble Hall Murders” I loved the Anthony Horowitz novel and am intrigued by the PBS adaptation. I’m also finishing up “Star Trek: Strange New Worlds Season 4,” “Ted Lasso” and will start the “Marlow Murder Club” soon. An eclectic list of series, eh?
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