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The Boy Grandma

As most of you know, I grew up with three younger brothers, two of them now long dead. Then I gave birth to two daughters who have now presented me with FOUR grandsons. I had always thought I would have a son (but didn’t) so these boys are a joy and a challenge; they delight, enlighten and sometimes terrify me. 🙂

Younger Daughter and I had a gorgeous day for our trip to Owen Beach, about 35 minutes away. It felt much longer since Ian doesn’t like riding in the car, so YD and I (plus Anders) did a lot of singing of Twinkle, Twinkle, Wheels on the Bus and Old McDonald. Once we arrived, the sunshine and warmish weather enticed Anders to approach the water for rock throwing. I was the eagle-eyed supervisor!

Believe it or not, there were a number of people swimming in the icy water. You couldn’t pay me enough.

It didn’t seem to bother Anders though.

Once out of the car, Ian was as happy as a clam at high tide. There were many rocks that he could try to eat.

Look at those beautiful eyes! Poor guy is pulling himself up to stand now which means much more bonking of the head, thus the forehead bruises. He wants to walk very badly. I would prefer him to keep crawling for a while; it’s easier on my nerves.

What can I say about the view except that I can never get enough of it?

My other guys are in their Jaxon Smith-Njigba jerseys and passing the time before the Seahawks’ kick off doing a Pokémon Lego (Sharky) and Lite Brite (Obro). I’ll miss watching the game with them today; I’m torn because John probably doesn’t want to spend every game with a couple of little boys. Perhaps I should talk with him about it…

At one of last week’s coffee dates, I ran into a group of retired male teachers, counselors and administrators from my district. Of course, I knew all of them and got many hugs and kind words. Shockingly, one of my former students (from my first year of teaching!) was having coffee with them; he shared that I had had an exceptional impact on his life. What I responded was, “Thank you! That means a lot to me.” I wanted to tell him instead how sorry I was that he had experienced that 23-year-old, inexperienced and bumbling version of me. I was beyond young, still living with my parents and many of my students were 18 and towered over me. I wish he’d been in my class 10 years later when I was more seasoned; I’d married by then and had a child of my own; I felt much more confident and knowledgeable about how best to relate to the students and teach them (get them to love) my subject. Plus, I was over double their age which changed how I interacted with them. As the years passed, I became their parents’ age and then (gulp) their grandparents’ which allowed me to use a gently wielded authority and my deeper understanding of children and effective instruction. I couldn’t have known any of this as a 23-year-old neophyte, so I don’t blame myself; I had to learn it over my 37 years in the classroom. If I ever run into Paul again, I may share some of this with him. Or perhaps I’ll simply treasure his compliment for what it was and resist any more navel gazing. LOL

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It still shocks me though that these students from my early years of teaching are now in their 60s and are actually my contemporaries. That’s weird, isn’t it?

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8 responses to “The Boy Grandma”

  1. Luftmentsch Avatar

    I’m glad you had a good time. R has been standing holding on to furniture for a while; in the last few days, she’s been able to stand for longer periods unsupported, although still not for long.

  2. Doug M Avatar
    Doug M

    A great piece, Margaret! Loved the pics of the boys at the beach, I will never tire of seeing Ian’s bright eyes. And your wonderful views. I also enjoyed reading about your run-in with your first year student, that IS strange about them being in their sixties now! But I had a first year teacher in third grade, Mr. Ralph Porter, 22 and tall and skinny with long sideburns. And to this day he remains my favorite. I’m sure many felt the same towards you. 🙂 PS. I was just talking about you with my sister. She was telling me how much she liked the selfies in my posts and why did I wait so many years to do that. I told her how I drew inspiration from your blog. So in a way, you’re still teaching. 🤎👍

  3. Linda Avatar

    Dear Margaret, baby Ian is absolutely precious! Please give him a hug for me. Beautiful photos, dear friend. I wouldn’t swim in icy waters, either!

  4. Marie Avatar
    Marie

    It is strange but fun to see former students as adults, although being just a few years older than them as a high school teacher must’ve been truly strange.
    You picked a perfect day to visit the beach! Lovely mountain shot!

  5. Pixie Avatar

    Take the complement!
    It looks like those boys had a great time at the beach. I do love the sound of the waves on a beach.

  6. Susan Avatar
    Susan

    The beach looks lovely and the views of the mountains are spectacular. You do live in a beautiful part of the country and having the beach so close to home is a big plus.
    Even with his small bumps and bruises, Ian is adorable. Soon he’ll be walking and there will be fewer bumps. Both boys seem to love the beach. Anders is wading and has no fear. He’ll likely be a fine swimmer.
    Compliments from your previous student are nice to hear. Validation is always welcome.

  7. JT Twissel Avatar

    Getting old in general is weird!

  8. DB Stewart Avatar

    I tell my first high school students that although I am still five years older than them, we are essentially the same age now, ha. (I have the same feelings and wishes about those first few years of teaching, sigh. But we all have to begin somewhere, and intent goes a long way too, as your post reveals.)
    I have 5 grandkids all 5 and under. They are so much fun! (And yet sometimes they ring alarm bells within me too.)

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