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I have the same feeling as this balloon I found behind my lace leaf maple. After weeks of thinking about, then preparing for a party (Anders’ 3rd birthday get together), it’s over and I have a sense of flatness. Not depression, just a kind of, “Well, what now?” attitude. I’ve been busier than normal: shopping, mowing, vacuuming, preparing/making food, organizing my deck and house for company which included such mundane tasks as ensuring that there’s enough toilet paper in all three bathrooms, putting out the stool for the littles to wash their hands, tying the seat pads on my deck chairs (they live inside to keep them clean) and washing down my ancient Styrofoam cooler for the overflow drinks.

As is somewhat typical with Younger Daughter, she bought these balloons without looking at the size then we had no place to hang them. This works although Mari is puzzled by the situation. She was NOT a fan of the company and was confined to her room, aka Cat Jail.

One of Anders’ gifts from Auntie was very popular. He loves bubbles and could manage this contraption very well, in spite of not being six like the directions recommend.

All the grandsons, besides baby Ian, got very soapy!

Opening gifts is so much fun!

What is this spinning thingie? All three boys tried it out in the kitchen. It made me dizzy to watch.

Sharky loves babies and Ian was happy for the cuddles and was quite talkative.

Grandma got lots of snuggles too.

And when Ian was overwhelmed by people after his nap, a rousing rendition of Old McDonald distracted him. Excuse my face, but I was in the midst of mooing like a cow. I have no photos of the food or cupcakes, but the guests seemed impressed with the salads, sandwich fixings and dessert. I thought I’d gotten way too much turkey (not true) and not enough roast (also not true). The sourdough bread that I’d recently bought was a disappointment–so dry. I put too much horseradish on my own sandwich and nearly choked myself! LOL Some of my favorite memories of the party will be the three oldest boys playing together, of Sharky and Anders sitting side by side putting together Duplos vehicles, the guests sitting around on the deck watching the boys run around/play frisbee with grandma while they chatted and ate, but mostly the joy of being together as a family. Now it’s on to the week, including…

Clearing off my deck so it can be pressure washed, then later stained. My construction guy will need to deal with the table; I can’t move it. My back is finally feeling better, so I’m not taking any chances!

Looking forward to two coffee dates with friends. One just returned from a long road trip, so I’m excited to hear about her adventures. The other will be taking care of Mari while I’m gone on a couple camping/glamping trips: the first with John and his family to the ocean and a few days after I get back, the San Juan weekend. We also like to share our deepest and darkest secrets with each other–the mark of a true friendship. Note: I don’t really have lots of secrets, but I don’t blog about everything, ‘ya know?

Finishing the LONG Book Club book that’s been hanging over my head. It’ll be a relief to move on to lighter (literally) things.

Hopefully, seeing John–who has been spending lots of time with his visiting Texas family; that will probably continue since the granddaughters will be here all month. His older daughter left today, so he might be even MORE tied up.

As always, I shall remain flexible and open to whatever happens. I don’t have much of a choice!

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34 responses to “Deflation”

  1. Linda Avatar

    Dear Margaret, your photos are gorgeous, my friend. I think a sense of flatness is common after a big celebration….of any kind! Birthday, Christmas, New Year, Canada Day, Independence Day, whatever! Kind of like a lull between periods of much activity.
    Thank you so much for sharing, and I hope you have a lovely week ahead!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      That’s it exactly, Linda! I think it might even be a physical thing; I’ve been operating on a lot of adrenaline with lists everywhere and suddenly, I have nothing pressing. I’m having a third cup of coffee right now to energize me a bit. I do have a few projects to do today!

  2. AC Avatar

    Sue walked by when the pic of Ian and Starky was up, and she commented on those bright eyes. I can’t recall if she mentioned blue too. 😇

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Anders’ eyes looked like that when he was that age also but have since changed to green. Which is absolutely fine, but it would be nice if the boys had two different eye colors.

  3. Doug M Avatar
    Doug M

    Margaret I’m a little lost here (and I even read this twice). Why the flat feelings? You keep your days so active, and it looks & sounds like Anders had a fine party! By the way–HOW is Anders 3 years old already, how? All that trauma when he came into the world, I can’t believe that was 3 years ago. Well, as usual your photos are colorful, fun & sweet and Ian looks so happy with all these faces around him. You are one awesome meme. :^)

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I had been looking forward to and getting ready for the party for several weeks, so I’m now feeling at loose ends. I have nothing pressing to do, so I’m wasting a lot of time! Mari is very happy about the calm, quiet house though. 🙂 Anders had a great time; I think everyone did. The two older boys (Sharky and Obro) got wild near the end–so much sugar and excitement.

  4. kayak woman Avatar

    I know those flat feelings. I had them (momentarily, I will admit) when mouse (daughter) and pengo (niece/bonus daughter) left our cabin a few weeks ago. Going to the dump, exciting as it can be, didn’t alleviate the flatness (LOL) but it was momentary because I immediately came up with an “expotition” to search for more plastic adirondack chairs for the deck. So I can serve cocktails to more neighbors, don’tcha know. I always just try to ride that flat stuff out. Something else always comes along.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I did some work outside and replaced some plastic protective covers on my deck chairs. The old ones were falling apart, and after I get my deck re-stained, I don’t want it scratched up by the chairs. It took me forever to find where I had put the extra protectors!

  5. Maureen Avatar
    Maureen

    I trust your deflated feelings will pass as you move on with your future plans. Two trips coffee dates, and aren’t you going to Ireland too? The party looked successful from your photos. It’s so nice that the boys all get along so well.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I’ve been so hyper focused on hosting this party that I’ve been sluggish about moving forward today. But I found some projects to do and went for a walk. so, I have been somewhat productive!

  6. Jay Avatar
    Jay

    The party sounds like it went well. I can feel flat after completing an event or project that took my attention and energy. I’m also often just tired. The cousins do seem to get along. It’s really special how Sharky is with Ian.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      it did go well! It was nice that Ian took a healthy nap so that we could get some things done. By the time he woke up, we were well organized with the food and could do a lot of baby holding! Obro has warmed up to his younger cousins too although he’s not as comfortable with babies as Sharky. I’m still a little flat but better.

  7. Susan Avatar
    Susan

    Preparing and organizing for Ander’s party was a lot of work and everything went extremely well. The boys all look terrific. Seeing them play together and have fun is wonderful. You managed to put on the perfect party!
    Running with peaks and valleys (highs and lows) can be exhausting. Things will level out and that’s probably a good thing. Highs that never end are stressful.
    Regarding the big Happy B-day sign, it works on the couch. Maybe YD can hang it in her yard somewhere. I think Anders would like the ongoing tribute.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It was a lot of work and many details to keep track of. Especially with my back healing, I had to take it slow hauling chairs and other things around. I wish John had been here to help with that. I loved seeing all the boys together–what a treat! I’m frustrated that we didn’t think to hang the banner on my fence. You’re a genius!!

  8. Betty Renfroe Avatar
    Betty Renfroe

    What a great party you had for your grandson. Sounds like all the boys enjoyed the day.

    How is OD’s back? Poor YD is doing what we call “flying by the seat of her pants” trying to fill all her roles. Hopefully, it’ll get easier as the boys age. Maybe their father will finally step up for them.

    Sorry you are low in spirit. It’ll vanish in no time. 🤞

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I wouldn’t say low, just flat. It’s probably a normal reaction to all the preparation, busyness and excitement. I have some activities planned for this week, so that’s a plus. OD’s back is improving but she’s not being as careful as I think she ought to be. She went running! She was twisting to pick up her younger child, who was fighting leaving my house. YD has a hard road ahead of her, much of it of her own making. As the saying goes, what’s done is done. We have to make the best of it.

  9. Pipe Tobacco Avatar
    Pipe Tobacco

    The party sounded like so much fun!!!! And, the photos are adorable (including your “mooing” face photo as well).

    The green toy almost looks like a turtle shell. I presume the kids get into it and then rock back-and-forth and/or spin around in it? It looks like great fun for all the kids (well, other than Ian I guess, as he is not quite mobile yet 🙂).

    Even with John’s current business with his visiting kids, I hope both of you can squeeze in some time….. I do know it is often difficult to do so in such situations, however.

    Relating to the deflated balloon analogy…. I hope it is just signifying being tired from all the festivities….. and NOT that you feel disappointed in any way with the events of the last few days….. they do indeed sound joyous to me!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Oh, no, I’m not depressed, just flat after all the fun and excitement. Fortunately, I do have a couple activities to look forward to this week, so I’ll get back into a more normal routine. That’s exactly what they do with the turtle shell thing. It was hilarious to see them try it out! John and I are headed to the Pacific Ocean (Grayland/Westport) with his family this weekend, so that’s something to prepare for and anticipate.

  10. Pipe Tobacco Avatar
    Pipe Tobacco

    Also…. regarding your deck chairs….. I do not know if I am mistaken (by the countless HGTV shows I see from California) but it seems like out West, most folks leave their cushions out on the lawn furniture all the time. Is that actually true??

    In my region, some folks try that, but the elements destroy them very quickly. In fact, a lot of folks here (myself included) have a “deck box” (usually near the deck sitting in bedding or stones around the house) where we house our cushions and ONLY get them out when we are actually outside using them (they would get water-sogged and moldy within a few days, otherwise).

    PipeTobacco

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Anyone who leaves the cushions out here will be buying them every year. Mine were fairly expensive and tie on, so they’re easy to remove. In winter, I store them in the garage, whereas in the summer, they’re in my den for easier access. Between rain, mold, and bird poop, the cushions would be destroyed in no time at all if left on the deck. Many people here have awnings or covered deck areas; in that case, they might leave everything out.

  11. Midwest Mark Avatar

    Now I want to hear your secrets!!

    1. Margaret Avatar

      They’re not that exciting or fun. Parenting worries, boyfriend stuff, old lady health annoyances. 😒

      1. Midwest Mark Avatar

        Damn. I was hoping you’d robbed a bank or stolen a bag of coke from the Mexican cartel.

    2. Margaret Avatar

      Maybe in my next life!

  12. Michael Avatar

    That was such a cute video with the bubble making! Kids are fun to watch and they always put a smile on my face.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I’ve been enjoying transferring some of the videos to YouTube and then imbedding them in my posts! You’re the first person to comment on one, so thank you, Michael. They’re fun for me to watch too. My son-in-law did most of the photo and video taking since I was sometimes busy with other things inside, mostly dealing with food. So, I didn’t get to see everything that was happening outside.

  13. Pixie Avatar

    I think the balloon says it all:)
    Ian has such beautiful eyes. He seems like such a sweet baby.
    Hope you have a wonderful week. I’m wrangling Jack all week. Yay.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Wrangling indeed. As much as I love my grandsons, it’s tough to deal with them for a long period of time. My patience gets short! Ian does have beautiful eyes; they may turn green like his brother’s. That’s OK although I would love him to keep the blue ones. (that daughter has blue eyes)

  14. Anne Bennett Avatar

    I keep reading other book than The Loneliness of Sonia and Sunny. Today I return to it.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      Exactly the same here, Anne. I think I would enjoy the book better if I read more of it at one time. (but that’s hard to do)

  15. Ed Avatar

    My girls had a pink version of the “spinning thing” though they didn’t spin in it. They mostly just sat in it and rocked. I’m not sure where they got it or what it’s original purpose was.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      I had never seen one and had no clue what it was!

  16. J Avatar

    You’re not alone at least, I think a lot of people feel a bit deflated after a busy time like that. I generally feel relieved that it is over. I look forward to events, I enjoy events, but then I’m glad for the calm of regular days, I guess. Sometimes when I come home from a vacation I can be blue though. SO much planning, and going back to work or chores after being somewhere beautiful and special is kind of blah. So I guess I get it. You do have a very full life, though, I love seeing the pictures.

    1. Margaret Avatar

      It does feel like that let down after a holiday, which I guess a birthday is? I’m finding myself more and more in charge of the festivities since my daughters are both working and busy with two little ones to care for. A nice mix of calm and excitement is my ideal. Thanks, I enjoy posting (too many?) photos; WordPress makes it very easy whereas it was a real pain with Typepad.

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